15 Things I Want People to Know About #Life

• Staying in is sometimes as fun as going out
• Learn to say “no” without explanation or feeling bad about it.
• Travel as much as you can. By plane, boat, train, car, bus, etc..
• Do something big that you thought you could never do.
• Confidence is sexy as hell on everyone.
• Do not take people or things for granted.
• You don’t have to be friends with everyone.
• Stop judging yourself and love yourself.
• Learn how to cook more than 10 dishes.
• Stop explaining and start doing.
• Learn how to say what you want and when you want it.
• Learn how to give more.
• Learn how to manage your money and your debt keep it managed
• Let people help you, lean on them when you need to, and be available to help, but don’t swing too far in either direction. Try to carry your half of the life basket as evenly as you can
• Go on an impulse buy and reward yourself. LIfe is hard and you are surviving. 

Bonus:

• Don’t ever think that you are alone. You are never alone. Life is too short to be depressed, suicidal, and worrying all the time. 
• You don’t have to have it all figured out now…Life is a series of failures that lead to lessons teach success…or something like that lol.

Life Lesson: Depression Hurts But Helps?

I haven’t been depressed my whole life.

Just starting in my 20s. I’m now 24, almost 25. I take pills so I can just sleep. The more I sleep, the less I can worry.

Sucks that I have been in this depressive spiral for almost 5 years and the fact that I don’t know how I got here.

Things started to happen more on the negative side than it did on the positive side. 

I wish I could turn back the hands of time and re-watch to see what happened and try to prevent it. 

I love being happy. I love feeling like I have purpose. I love feeling like people want me around. I love to have real happiness.

Now, I feel completely opposite of how I want to feel.

I feel like a failure in all areas but I am trying to get better. I just want to do the things I feel right and go from there.

Depression hurts very much but I wonder does it also help? I mean you can always try to get the help you need, if it isn’t from a “prayer fixes all things” person from the right person/medicine. 

Maybe depression for some people gives them something to look forward to. I mean some depressed people (like me) feel like I am on rock bottom and the next level is so close but I’ve already used all the helps I could get so I feel stuck.

*shrugs* I don’t know. Hopefully soon that I’ll get out of this spiral and can be happy, again..

Dani’s Goals for 2014

First of all, I don’t give a rat’s behind on what people have to say about people who make resolutions/goals for the new year!! At least we are making one. At least we have a plan. At least we know where we want to go in life. At least we envision our dreams. At least we are working..I rather work and plan than run my mouth about others. But I digress. . .

So, I have some basic goals for 2014 and all I’m doing is building upon what I’m doing now:

1. If You’re Happy and You Know It, Then Act Like It!–I loved Beyoncé’s song “Pretty Hurts” and she answered the question that she aspires to be happy in life. And I want that for myself. It is easy to want and make others happy but to sit down, figure out and make yourself happy will be a challenge for me. I just want to smile more. I am a lot prettier when I smile.
2. In My Mind — Set relationship and school goals. That is whole separate list that I am not ready for the world to know yet !
3. Happy Mother’s Day — I want to be a better mom. On my heart, I have to be ( you have to know what I think to know my pain and only 2 people have the privilege of that!)
4. No More Crying Rivers–Just ask Carlos aka LosEvolution. I cry a lot. I allow my negative emotions and thoughts beat the hell out of me sometimes and that is something that I have to stop doing.
5. Money, Money, MONEY!!! — Finding a better job (pay and health wise) and get my money back right! Cutting my debt at least by 70% by September 2014! Alexis and I need to be having more fun and going more places…oh Carlos also! And I have wanted to get involved with stocks and investments for some odd reasons
6. Opinions That Are Not My Own –This one is huge. I do worry about others’ opinions and that is why I am very hesitant when it comes to things that I want and wish to do in my life and with my love ones.
7. The B-I-B-L-E Is Made For You And Me — I gotta read my bible more. I want to do the read the Bible in a year challenge but I also want to study and comprehend, not just read.
8. Write More, Hold In Less–This is my blog!! I need to be writing more and writing about everything! Whatever is on my mind, I need to start blogging and writing about it. Maybe that’ll help me with 1-3 also.
9. Pageant World Domination –Bring home the Today’s American Woman National Ms. Curvy Pageant Crown. I got 6 1/2 months to get right, get tight, and get that crown (Don’t Keep Calm, I’m winning that crown!! 2013-14 Ms. Curvy Mississippi loves you 🙂 ) So that mean beauty regiments, hair regiments, pageant coaching, consultants, make-up, etc… I’m so excited!!!
10. You Gotta Workout It– To get more serious and get my body more fit. I don’t wanna lose too much weight but I gotta lose the pouch, the hams, and rolls!!
11. On My Honor…– To become a better troop leader so my world changers (my scouts!!) and their parents can become better!!
12. Dress to the Nines — I gotta update and add to my wardrobe. That goes with getting my money right. I am not dressing how I want and this is not making me happy!! I got some items from Forever21+ and Beautiful Boutique in Starkville, MS that I am dying to add to my closet! (Any suggestions, let me know!!)
13. Just Dance — I wanna take part in dance classes like Monica Wilson’s  Xocity Dance in Atlanta. I have about 10 songs that I wanna learn how to dance *wink lol (self-confidence boost really, I promise)
14. From Coast to Coast… — I want to go at least 3 places in 2014. One for myself (Nashville), a family trip (Disney Land), and One for our Relationship
15. FOCUS!! — Stay focused on my goals. I mean it’s hard but easy. I gotta time manage, budget, plan, pray, read, love, and enjoy life. I think I can do this

(Some might get the goal titles, others won’t but I thought they were funny in my head *shrugs* lol 🙂

 

Kisses to 2013 — Thank you the lessons!!

Cheers to 2014 — I’m Ready for You!!!

Happy New Years!!!!

Merry Christmas (I know, I know!!)

Merry Christmas to all!! Whether you celebrate it or not, I hope today was a great day for you and yours. I hope you remember the reason for All the seasons! God gave us blessing beyond blessings and everyday I breathe, my love ones breathe, I am thankful for His amazing and loving sacrifice, His son!!

 

I got everything I really wanted this year-the people I love happy.

Even though my mom, my man, and other members of my family will get their gifts next week (and they will love it!), my love, Alexis, got all her gifts today and she was so excited. I had to make up from last year and my mom and aunt helped me out so much this year and Santa did a good job this year.

 

Love you all!!! Start making your goals and resolutions for 2014!!

Things I Learned from Relationships

My significant other does a list like this for RAW (on Mondays) and Scandal (on Thursdays) on http://www.losevolution.com , so I decided that I would do one on Relationships…or whatever topic I decide for myself 🙂

They are in no particular order….just whatever pops in my head!

1. Respect is needed, required, demanded. If you don’t have respect, you don’t have a relationship.
2. Communication is a key to most successful relationships. Learn how to verbally and non verbally communicate. Only because you SAY something, your BODY might be saying something else.
3. You way of loving and the other person way of loving is different. Set your standards and expectations and let it be known from the jump. Don’t feel bad for having high standards. Just make sure you are bringing the same amount if not more to the table.
4. It is completely okay to date for marriage. That is what you are supposed to do. You are supposed to date and have relationships to find a suitable mate for marriage. Do I believe you should just go around and have sex everywhere with everyone? Not my body, not my say, my opinion don’t matter. Just be comfortable in what you do.
5. You have to set boundaries in your relationships with your friends, families, associates, etc. If you don’t let them know from the jump, difficulties in your relationships can happen and will happen.
6. Secrets, secret actions, notes, motives, etc. that are against each other will  kill relationships……slowly
7. You learn who are really are in a relationship. Sometimes being intimate (not always sexually) sometimes shines a better light on who you are.
8. Compromise is the biggest word and the hardest action you will learned and do in relationships. You might not like it but you will have to do it
9. In order to have a fun and happy relationship, you need to keep it fun and fresh. Do different things once a month or once a week. Don’t allow the relationship to go stale. This is when infidelity happens.
10. Learn to let ish go. Not all things that make you upset deserve an argument. Yeah, discuss it, talk it about (in the right way) but don’t have an argument. Choose your battles.
11. You can’t change anyone. Stop it. If you want the perfect person, be alone. Go back to #8 and #1.
12. Do things together (pray, meditate, shop, etc) but learn to spend some time apart (I’m still working on this! lol)
13. Leave the past alone. Throw away, burn, shred, whatever things from the past. If you really wanted it, you would have stayed and made it work. Throw away those love letters, poems, cards, etc..just let it go!
14. Learn to forgive and not forget the LESSON behind what happened.
15. “I’m Sorry” and “I love you” will be two phrases you need to learn to say and mean when you say it.
16. Sometimes you are not your significant other’s best friend. Be okay with that or you’ll have problems because of jealousy.

I liked doing this list 🙂